Today is S and I’s fifth marriage anniversary. This question is beyond cliche to ask in a post like this, but, where did the time go? Five years isn’t a long time at all, and so far our history together has felt like a whirlwind and a lifetime all at once.
Let’s see, we started dating Summer of 2011, moved in together Summer of 2013, got engaged, bought a condo, got a puppy, got married in 2014, I completed my degree at Indiana University, we’ve both been on massive career journeys, and during all of this have had a lovely niece and two nephews join our family.
Life is going to life, and it did just that. We’ve faced our ups and downs and have managed to navigate darker days with the grace of a Swan Lake prima ballerina. Our relationship has been an easy one for the most part, yes, but that’s not to say we haven’t had our bumps in the road.
At times my content can slow down because I’ve been busy, sure, but it’s also because I may not feel like I have anything to share. I love seeing happy couples post on Instagram and in other corners of the internet, but I have to wonder, how many of them are actually happy? Are they posting all this lovey-dovey bullshit just for the gram to grab a like or two? I’m so not into that.
I love love, but love is hard. If what I’m seeing from happy couples online is their truth, then great! That’s amazing. I try to be honest with my readers and followers, and I connect more with those I follow who share this sentiment.
(Us on New Years Eve 2011, a few months into dating)
S and I have been married for five years, but come October, we will be together a total of eight years. I’ve written about what we’ve learned in our relationship a number of times on Gays in the Life, but one major lesson sticks out to us in this moment:
Honesty. You have to be honest with yourself, and with yourselves as a unit. If you’re not, you will fail.
I’ll leave all my lovers out there with this tip. Seriously, take this with you moving forward; it’ll change the game:
Check in with each other! Check in on each other’s personal goals, any issues you both may be working through, mental health, happiness, and darkness. Over the years we’ve learned not to take reactions or things said personally because you never know what someone is going through. If you’re able to level with yourself in honesty, you’ll be able to help your relationship stay just as honest and strong.
Happy Anniversary, S! I love you so much, and thank you for being a constant source of strength and inspiration for me.
I just randomly stumbled in to your blog and to this post. First of all, congrats! Keep up the love! Secondly, this is very relateable for me. Acually had a little shiver. Mostly because it reminds me of my relationship with my bf. We’ve been a couple for 10.5 y now and planning a wedding for next summer.
Well, just wanted to say hi and grats really 🙂 take care
Hey! Thank you so much for stopping by. I’m so glad you can relate to the content. S and I have learned a lot from each other over the years. I’m looking for fresh ways to keep telling our story and sharing with the community. Congrats on the upcoming marriage and 10+ years! Very cool.