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Simple Ways to Support Each Other Throughout the Workweek.

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At the top of each workweek, we have the best intentions to be organized, responsible, and productive human beings. We do our best to fend off piles of dirty dishes, dust bunnies, thoughts of skipping that workout, and the large wave of exhaustion that comes with working a full-time job. Here’s a snapshot of my week:

  • Work – 40+ hours 
  • Podcast/Blog tasks  – 3-5 hours
  • Realty school – 10+ hours 
  • Work out at least 3-4 days

If you’re anything like me – and you’re a crazy person – you enjoy being creative and thrive having multiple projects to work on. I love the feeling of being creative and putting out content I’m proud of, but come on, I know you can tell my posts have slowed down this past year.

It can be tough to manage passions and life schedules, especially if you throw kids or pets into the mix, so how do we thrive without driving ourselves crazy? Well, all we can  do is our best, and having a little help never hurts. 

If  you’re currently living with your partner or have roommates with similar schedules as you, it’s not a bad idea to sit down and figure out how you can help each other have the most successful week. If you’ve got the game mastered and slay life week to week, this post  probably isn’t for you, and as Queen Gia Gunn would say: “YAAAS, bitch, werk.” You did that. Here are some simple ways my husband and I plan to support each other throughout the workweek:

CHORE-LOADING. Maybe one of you is having a much busier week than the other, and the impending doom and feeling of giving up is tapping you on the shoulder. The person with the lighter load can easily take on a couple extra chores and errands. Not only does this relieve your partner of the added stress they put on themselves, it adds to the bond and promotes deeper connection and love. Who doesn’t want to feel like they’re being thought of and supported?! Taking care of the person you love and the household you share is sexy, and most of the time, doesn’t take much.

CHECK-INS. We talk about this all the time here on Gays in the Life. Ask your partner how they’re doing. Go beyond the typical work-bitch-session and get into how they’re doing and how their week is going. If one of you is having a down week, this is a great idea to help break the ice and  let the other know you’re here for them and that they have support. It’s amazing what this does. It’s very easy to get stuck in your head and go inward. On the brighter side of the check-in spectrum, ask how their personal project or goals are developing. It’s so nice to talk about passion projects or other interests. Keep things light and keep work at work. Connect!

ACTIVITY DATES. Schedule at least a couple workouts, walks, or quick home improvement projects to do as unit; a team. My husband and I go on evening walks on a nearby trail. Outside of walking on the trails of  Eagle Creek, we try to attend two workout classes together each week. Working out is proven to improve mental health and is a good way to bond with your partner and to have shared goals. Another fun and easy way to keep the pressure of the workweek and household responsibilities at a low level, is to work on quick  home improvement projects together. Take an evening to put some music on and organize that garage together. Pour some wine and finally hang up that artwork that’s been collecting dust over the months. Get crazy and reorganize your living space. Keeping environments clean, fresh, and feeling like it’s yours does wonders for the mood. 

Give these few tidbits a go, and please feel free to share your  experience in the comments. Find me @gaysinthelife on Instagram and Twitter to continue the conversation there.  

Have a good week! J,

Hello, There! Why is Vacation Over?

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Big thanks and WELCOME to all the new followers that joined us over the past couple weeks. I can’t express how much your interest and curiosity means to us as I grow the Gays in the Life platform.

 

We had some family visiting this past week from Alaska and Florida, so forgive the lack of content. Sometimes you just need to disconnect and enjoy the moment. Here are some things you can look forward to on Gays in the Life in the coming days:

 

  • More relationship and marriage discussion.
  • Interviews and topic reviews with S (and other couples)!
  • More vlog (video blog) content to highlight past, present, and upcoming topics.

Thanks again for all your support! Don’t forget to share Gays in the Life with friends and family, and to reach out on all social media @GaysintheLife. We look forward to getting to know all of you in the comments and the GITL inbox – gaysinthelife@gmail.com.

Let us know how we’re doing!

Stay zen,

WE’RE BACK – @gaysinthelife

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Thank goodness our Instagram account has been recovered.

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We lost a few followers and people we were following, but that’s probably mostly due to those of you that sprung into action and reported the account as spam. THANK YOU to all of you who did that. I believe it helped the process. We still have our original Insta-handle AND all our pics are present. Please follow us and we’ll follow you back if we lost connection during this little security breach.

Big sigh of relief and many thanks,

J.

WELCOME! And Thanks :)

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I’d like to take a moment to say WELCOME to Gays in the Life’s new followers. We’ve been much more engaged on social media and work-shopping ideas for the blog and it shows with a great increase in your support and daily interaction. For those of you just joining us, be sure to keep up with us on the following platforms:

Facebook: Facebook.com/GaysintheLife

Twitter: @gaysinthelife

Instagram: @gaysinthelife

I’d also like to take a moment to say THANK YOU to all of you that have been with us from the beginning  – that’s now over two years ago – and THANK YOU to all of you new followers. I cannot express how appreciative I am of you all taking the time to read whatever mumbo-jumbo I’m serving up throughout the week.

Life has been an interesting ride and I know it’s not anywhere near over. In three days I’ll be celebrating my thirtieth birthday. The fact that I’ll be thirty on Saturday is wild in itself. When you’re younger, thirty seems so far away, but I fully plan on  continuing to embrace adulthood and share S and I’s lessons along the way.

Please know that you are all loved and welcomed with open keystrokes. Continue to share the blog, Facebook page, and social media accounts with your family and friends. I strongly believe that we can build a better world by educating each other through shared experiences and conversation. My only goal with Gays in the Life is to do exactly that.

If there’s ever a time you have a question or want to learn more about a post I’ve written or information I’ve shared, let us know in the comments or on our social media! Getting to know our followers and readers will only benefit the relationship we have with you and can only enhance the content we have coming down the pipeline for you.

Here’s a bit of a bonus for you all. S and I the night of our first date back in September 2011:

first-date-night

We look a little different now 🙂

thank you, thanK YOU, THANK YOU. Be well,

J.

Hi! 

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Hello everyone! Sorry I’ve been in and out of the blog as of late. It’s only been a couple weeks since my last post, I think, but I fully intend to hop back on the wagon SOON! Excuses aren’t cute by any means, but the husband and I have been extremely busy.

Last week our home desktop computer decided that it wanted to crash, in the middle of my husband prepping for a final exam, just before we were to leave for Minneapolis to visit friends, and that left us with one laptop to share. We returned to Indianapolis on Monday, after having an absolute blast in Golden Gopher territory for four days, and are just now coming off that “vacation” feeling of laziness.


I would like to have a post up by this weekend, but I will make no promises. I plan to write a little about our time with our friends up in Minnesota, but S is still monopolizing the laptop. Education is important, and his final is tomorrow, so I won’t snatch the device away from him, lol.

So I apologize for the delay! But in the meantime, keep up with me on social media across these platforms:

Twitter: @gaysinthelife

Instagram: @being_mrj

Be looking for a post soon! Share past posts with your friends and family! And as always, I thank you for the love. Talk to you all soon.