How do you say I love you? Is it the way you look at each other or in the little isms in your day to day with each other? Think about this for a second. How important is it to you that you hear the words I love you, and if this does matter to you, how often?
S and I aren’t terribly expressive in person. We say I love you here and there – sprinkling the phrase throughout the week, but not necessarily each day – and this isn’t something that’s been an issue for us.
(This picture was taken the night we first told each other we loved one another… Awe.)
I tend to show love with physical contact, while S translates the little things as me caring for him. For example: I’m not a big toucher… Family, friends, I won’t really hug you unless I haven’t seen you in quite some time. I’m the complete opposite when it comes to S. I’ll mess with his hair or sneak up on him in the kitchen; hugging him from behind. My favorite is holding a free hand while he’s driving or resting my hand on his leg.
S usually tries to bat me away as he’s got a different love language – acts of kindness. He stays pretty busy so I try to accomplish whatever I can in our home – chores, errands, taking care of our fur-child – before he even has to think about it. Whenever he has a moment to relax and decompress, I make sure he can enjoy it fully.
Don’t get it twisted though… I usually save the hardwood floor cleaning for him 😉
NOW IT’S YOUR TURN! ANSWER THE QUESTION WITH YOUR PARTNER OR FRIENDS, AND SHARE YOUR RESPONSES IN THE COMMENTS. OFF YOU GO!
(If you haven’t already, I suggest you dive into finding out what your love language is… do that here.)
Great question. We rarely say the words. After almost 34 years, Actions speak louder than words. Lots of little things that seem mundane to someone else. He cooks supper for us. I do the dishes. We’d rather spend time together than with anyone.
That’s so real, J-Dub! I was thinking to myself as I wrote this post “have we every regularly said the phrase to each other?” Actions speak much louder for us as well. Thanks for participating! 🙂