“What’re we doing again?” he presents this frequently asked question as I bring up pending plans for G’s birthday celebration down in Bloomington.  “We went over this!” I tease, waiting to repeat the information for a third or fourth time. “Ugh, just tell me!” Selective hearing is a trait he, his brother, and father all have in common. You could be sitting next to S with a cigarette lighter in hand, mention a gas leak, and get nothing – maybe that’s an exaggeration, but it’s humorous nonetheless.  The manifestation of quick, mischievous panic is the usual expression displayed when he tunes back into our conversations; sharing nothing but wide eyes and a smile. Softening to his plea, I administer a small dose of guilt with one of my very own frequently asked questions. “You didn’t hear anything I just said, did you?” And the beat goes on.



  1. LOL! I can identify! A frequent source of missed communication in our home! Make eye contact! Otherwise, don’t waste the time or effort. Much love and many friendly, naked hugs, my friend. 🙂

  2. You and “Mine” have something strong in common; besides being socially gifted and organized; you have spouses that trust you implicitly. It took me quite a while to realize what I was actually doing when I know that I’m asking my wife a question she has already elaborated twice. Then it hit me, I’m relying on her. I’ve carved out a space for her in my life and mind and completely trust her decisions when it comes to what we’re doing, when, and who with. That’s why I don’t commit to the details, because I know she’s got it. She is absolutely capable at it.

    If I were to be without her, I don’t know what my life would look like because I rely on her so much for such large portions of it now. My implicit trust is a sign of love and devotion; as is S’s I imagine.

    …or we’re just lazy and forgetful, but who want to live in that world?

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